Will starting HRT change my sexual orientation ?
Will my gender identity change?
A lot of us start HRT because of our gender identity. But a lot of us already know what we identify as while starting our HRT. We know our end goal. A lot of the time Dr Camiel says people know already. We become free to explore once we start. Sometimes Dr Camiel gets patients who think they are trans woman but then they realise that they are non-binary and trans femme. And then they say that they said they were a transwoman because they were scared to come out as trans femme would mean that they don’t get hormones. So they were not sure as to what they wanted to identify as. Or you think you are non-binary but they feel euphoric at the hormones and then after a while, they realise that they were a transwoman. Identity is a journey. It’s not a solid thing and it is a path of life that can be different. So I don’t think gender identity changes due to hormones but it keeps changing because it is not solid. So if it keeps changing then it will change but still, people say it is solid and they have known since birth. But for people who are fluid or on the non-binary spectrum, we are still finding it out which is also valid.
Will my sexual attraction change?
When it comes to sexual attraction it is very interesting. The hormone helps in sexual functioning and influences anatomy or whatever is going on in your body and emotions where sexual emotions. So we find out that people change their activity and what sensations they like according to that. How they like being touched, what turns them on and what changes. This means that we take an interest in other sexual activities or other sexual partners, or if other things turn us on. For those of us who have been in a relationship already when they come for consultation with Dr Camiel, he makes them understand that what attracts them and what turns them on are different things. So keep yourself open and explore it together so this journey also does not feel like I have changed. Even if something that had turned you on in the past doesn’t work anymore you should communicate. Otherwise, there will be problems. You can explore something new together as you transition. But the problem arrives when you have been with someone for a long time but you stop feeling as attracted to them and are attracted to someone else. This person can be more masculine or feminine or maybe not relating to that. We don’t know if it is just with connection to HRT. And we know and people tell us that they feel a sense of freedom. So new sexual activities so there are new sensations which can be enjoyed and if you are attracted to someone you did not like before then this can happen. And if you are open and interested then there is not a problem.
See transitioning as a second puberty, says Dr Camiel because a lot of times we start transition thinking this will help make things more sense. But because we have been through puberty we know how confused we were about things. Things were difficult to understand and a lot of other things started making sense. When we start HRT it is like a second puberty and things will not make that much sense. There are a lot of things that you think will start making sense but they won’t give you the happiness you are looking for. And things we were not expecting will not happen. And there is a lot that we will not understand because that is just how life is. This is a process and it will take time. This is a journey without an end goal but you will think that maybe 5 years later your desires will work out and there will be a lot of changes thanks to your transition. But for a lot of us even 2 years bring in a lot of happiness and new things. Transition is different for all of us.
