Aruna
sure we can meet. I will be in delhi
Amy
Muiren
I am Trans Lesbian having transitioned beginning in 2003 and completing in 2006.
The major short-coming I experience is that Cisgender or Cis Lesbians do no acept me as a woman.
I am open to dating other trans women but over the years realized that all the Trans Women of Color I've met are into men in Het Normative style relationships. There are also extremely few Cis or Trans Women of Color with my education, creativity, and entrepreneural ambition.
White Trans Lesbians rarely date outside their race in America, when they do it tends to be for passion, or at least thats all I've seen with other women and in my experience, never an interest in a committed partnership.
I've long had a great number of professional friendships and friendships from involvement in politics. Other than that almost no one realizes I have been alone all my life. Such is life.
Amy
Muiren So true. Cis folks will never treat us women. Whichever way you educate them. TransWomen are mostly into men. No wrong. But what hurts is to get mocked for our choices. They too start outcasting. I've my share of such experiences with that.
Muiren
I'm a co-founder of a cooperative, and we have the intention of hiring and training trans-women in modern technology. Borrowing elements from various cultures but with a foundation on scientific principles, it is a federated union of worker-owned cooperatives. The labor contract is revolutionary because it is based on Social Contract Theory. In brief, the Federation adopts you after an evaluation period.
The constituent is provided with their basic needs as would be expected by any family, and they have an obligation to conduct themselves with honor, to study and work to achieve their highest potential in creative and productive expression.
During their study and work, there are household chores as would be expected in any family. They also have an obligation to teach and mentor others. Each year they must form teams and humbly wander and investigate other communities and their people. Selecting communities of good character that would otherwise thrive were it not crippled by poverty and superstitious ignorance. These communities are either as a whole or individual citizens are adopted.
If it is a whole village then plans are made to rebuild it based on a sustainable model that radically reduces their cost of living, and so allows them to repeat the example, building prosperity for themselves and others.
The most important condition is that no decision that affects the community well being can be based on traditional custom or religious views.
Without exception, all policy and actions must be based on scientific reason.
Mohini
Muiren, I am willing to date outside of my race, especially Hindu women, as I am Hindu myself. They have a mindset that I feel much more comfortable with, rather than the white mindset white women have. It's strange. It's gotten really hard for me, considering that I started opening up as Hindu after being primitive Pagan for decades (long story short, I was found to be deaf at seven and a half years old and missed the compulsory conditioning of Kindergarten and the first grade, and from TV until I was 14 years old, when subtitles were finally available for limited programs, so I was not westernized enough for women, nor was I Christianized for the "wonderful" state of Texas).
Navika
Hi
Navika
Anyone who is married also?
Sneha1
Hi can we lesbians transwomen form a chatting group??
Una
Namaste,
I will tell my journey.
When I was age 8 or so I found my gender identity (or it found me, to be more correct). I realized suddenly that I was a girl, and it explained why I never felt like a boy and never felt comfortable being around boys. I was confused and asked my father many times "how do you know I'm a boy? I feel like a girl. How do you know I'm not a girl?" My father was not a smart man, but he did know that if he beat me enough I would stop asking questions, so he did, and I stopped.
At age 12-13 I started to experience feelings much more strongly of being a young woman, and was confused by why my body did not develop like the other girls, and why I had male parts, etc. For a while I thought I was gay, because I was mildly attracted to boys. I wanted a boyfriend to be nice to me and take care of me. I thought "if you like boys and you have boy parts, it must be because you are a girl inside." I didn't realize the logical paradox of this - if two gay men are in love, and both are girls inside, then it means they must be really lesbians..." This was 1981, and there were no resources, no books, no internet. I was alone.
At age 16 I was raped by two men, and I became afraid of men. By age 23-24 I started to be able to feel attraction again, but it was only to other women, because men scared me. Since I still looked like a boy then, that was not a problem socially.
By age 32 when Is started my social transition (in secret) I knew I only liked other women. I met a woman from England who was wonderful. She was a lesbian and knew I was transgender before our first date. True story, she knew me online as Una, and when I told her I was taking a business trip to the UK, she said "hey, do you want to go out on a date?" I had to come out to her, and tell her that this woman "Una" she knew online was really a stealth transgender lesbian. I told her my whole story in chat (this was in 2000). Her reaction after I told her was simply "oh cool, do you like Indian food?" We met for curry in the north side of London. She said even though she was a lesbian, she could see the woman in me so clearly that she didn't care about the boy body. She proposed to me, and I accepted, and we married in 2002.
It took many years for me to complete my physical transition, with my wife standing by my side, always encouraging the girl in me to come alive. We are now an older legally married lesbian couple, very happy, and together 17 years.
My sexuality has altered only a little. Estrogen and transition has made me braver, and I am no longer afraid of men. If I was single I would still be lesbian, but I guess if I found the "perfect man" (who would look and act like a butch lesbian, LOL) I might give the relationship a try. But generally, no, I only feel safe and warm around other women.
cc23
Una
Oh wow, this is really one of the most touching and beautiful stories I have ever read.
I'm sorry for whatever happened in your childhood, but it's so heartening and encouraging to read about everything that came after that...
Especially this: "
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Una She said even though she was a lesbian, she could see the woman in me so clearly that she didn't care about the boy body
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Muiren
Una Thank you for sharing. <3
Mohini
Wow, damn! That worked out really, really, really well for you! That is wonderful!
Amara
@Una Thank you for sharing. ? ?
Ankitasxn
Muiren girl may you find your soulmate finally ..amen ?
Ankitasxn
Una wow i am so happy that you found your soulmate ...many of us often wo der whether we will be alone in old age and that is a great insecurity....your story is so inspiring ?
vvvv2706
Me apne andar ki woman se struggle kar raha hu. My age 46 . Ab thak me sharam ya job ki vajah se feminine things kutch bhi nahi kar paya. Par ab bardast se bahar ho raha he. Agar mai female ki tarah feeling and rah nahi pavunga tho pagal ho javunga. Maine Harmone ke liye endicrinolgist se consult kiya . Ek physiochritic se bhi consult kiya, par unhone kaha ki actual me agar Female me change hona chahte ho tho sabse pehle ek partner search karo jo tumhe female ke roop me accept kare, ya phir kisi transgender ke sath raho. Full time crossdressing karo, makeup sikho. . Jisse ki first mentally and visibly female ki tarah ho javo. Par soch lena ki job security and financial security ke bare me. Kyoki tum medium financial status se ho. Baad me job ka kya hoga. and earn kya karoge. Kyogi maximum trans prostitution ki taraf chale jate he.
Mujhe ek delhi me a friend chahiye jiske pass rahkar me full time crossdressing kar saku aur confidence and himmat aa sake. Phir me HRT and some surgery karwa . Isliye koi Friend and trangender/freelancer hijda mil jaye tho me fast speed se feminine change ho saku
Megha
vvvv2706 there's no need to live as a female to start hrt, and there are psychological tests to identify gender dysphoria. And what is freelance hijda?
vvvv2706
freelance hijda mean not from enunch group or from guru
Megha ji Physiochritic say this because of i am at age of 46 and he seem that i deciding in in quick mode. and previously i not live as feminine or any experience of crossdressing due to non availability of occasion and shyness also.
Hence he say u may first prepare ur mind properly and face problem after mtf
vvvv2706
at this i am in average financial position. So i can afford next few year without earning.
