I absolutely trust you to try to express yourself slowly and spontaneously.
I also have a lot of responsibilities attached to me but I am changing my life according to my age, I was diagnosed with dysphoria at the age of about 10-14 years. I was patient and waited for the right time and the right environment. I am in a very responsible position right now where I have to give the public Responsibility a daily basis. I still don't feel the rush to share my expression with others and let change affect my daily routine.
The real comfort comes when I find myself very dear and no one else.
You can also lead a good ideal life with your wife, all you need to do is ensure your private space.
It is necessary to confirm whether dysphoria is mentally disturbing.
If dysphoria is affecting a lot of life, then you need to push your change or else you can control it.
This is a bit complicated, but it is against humanity to impose it on another dependent person.
Let me tell you my story...
I had a very good friend, she also did not get married yet because of me and she has also been postponing her marriage for the last 10 years, persuading me not to get the transition.