Hi I am Apoorva and I'm trans and 14

Apoorvat

Hi my real name is Akhil and I'm a mtf transgender....I'm from Hyderabad. I want to know if I should consult a therapist and endo or just self medicate...and should I socially transition before taking in estrogen?
feel free to give me any number of tips
thx
Apoorva t

Ankitha

Apoorvat hi i m ankitha frm hyd

Anita

Apoorvat do not self medicate at any cost ( cause you need doctors for legal help and also if anything goes sideways )

first get to a therapist then a endo.

social transition is completely individuals preferences.

if your social circle is okay with it good go ahead no issues and this will make it easier for understanding and exploring yourself.

social transition prior to medical transition will help a lot in mental state of mind but medical transition will help a lot in physical changes That past puberty become irreversible.

some may say you are too young to know yourself etc which might be true but these are the same people who clap on when a 14 year old gets a degree or does something great... so a good therpaist help and proper exploring yourself and a good friend should pretty much put you in the right track

Apoorvat

Apoorvat Hi my real name is Akhil
Lol how naive i was...i called it my "real" name

Apoorvat

Ankitha hi Ankitha...how old r u

iamcapricious

Anita so well put

Apoorvat

Thx....do u know any therapists and endo from hyd...As meeting psychologist is currently open in our area

Ankitha

Apoorvat 22yrs

Anita

iamcapricious thank you

Apoorvat

(Update) The endo and psychiatrist asked me to socially transition for 3 months and then changed it to 6 months....2 more month to start blockers and 4 to 5 more months for hrt (i accidentally delayed the process by hesitiating to socially transition) but now im comfortable....its easier to talk to friends and parents and life is kinda good.....but there is lot of dysphoria still....the reason endo is delaying is becoz psychiatrist said that lot of teens have gender fluidity...hence i need to social transition longer than adults....good part is from covid, i dont have to go to school and get bullied. instead i can switch off my cam in online classes

hero

Apoorvat Hey der... 14 yrs is too young even to b going on blockers.Your Psychiatrist is Right. Not just for Teens, even for adults its common, Gender is Fluid..... I recently came to know on d fact dat d frontal lobe of brain starts growing at 15 and it keeps growing till 21. Hence the advise of docs to start off HRT at 18. Hormons lk E,T target regions of brain affecting many aspecs of signalling,function at the epigenetic,cellular and behavioural levels.There are various studies and controversial theories on puberty blockers for kids with Dysphoria....Nobody is asking you to ignore your dysphoria...as you have already started transitioning socially ( mny of us still have issues, troubles transitioning socially) it should keep you happy. Read lots, equip yourself and then take an informed decision. ATB
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Queen26

hero heyy im 18 now, i also started my HRT when i was 14!!
Its good to start early with parental consent rather than starting it at 18 when your face and body is masculine

cheesebits

hero this is very outdated thinking and harmful. 14 is not too young to begin hrt. The general consensus is surgery after they become an adult.

Apoorvat

hero I appreciate ur honesty but sometimes you just know....uk that ur trans and not gender fluid....u just know.....and i knew. Gender should be a self discovery.

hero

cheesebits Its not outdated thinking. Even in countries lk Malta, which is supposed to b d friendliest place - the endocrine paediatrics agree that blockers shd b std only at 16. Thats y i did state make an informed consent. Gender is Fluid.... Doctors are wrking on a protocol for teenagers with GD. Lets hope it comes out soon.

Apoorvat

hero It really depends on the persons maturity....hence, there are kids who started transition at 12, 10 and even 4. But mainly, in debate to ur statement, countries like spain, germany, sweden instead look for the persons maturity and then see if they can transition early or not.....also puberty blockers are a bless...rlly helps. also in that same context, there are countries where people can have bottom surgery at 16.
And my psychiatrist and psychologist took a emotional maturity test also....i have an emotional intelligence that is usually more than a lot of 20 year olds.....its 140/160....ya thats all for now

hero

Apoorvat I do appreciate your honesty too but Exploration of gender is a huge step. Even most of the Psychiatrists in India aren't aware of the concept of Non-binary and that doesn't mean dat people should not identify as EnBy. I stated facts cited by Paediatric Endocrinologist which has been published too in a clinical journal and den it's individual's choice. That's y I did state, make an informed decision. It's not a matter of maturity at all. Every individual is different and given a chance, dey wud definitely explore was my pov.

Apoorvat

UPDATE
one of my psychiatrist turned out to actually be transphobic and after shifting psychiatrists again, They told that im ready. I am on blockers and a low dose(**********************************)
Life slowly getting easier. Not many changed tbh, but does help with dysphoria. I was supposed to get a dosage increase at my 6 months mark,(last week) but my endo told me to wait another 3 months to get on 2 mg estradiol valerate. Meeting people is normal again, correcting people who misgender and call me by dead name is not hard or "complicated " anymore..... just came to 10th grade, not rlly having fun but my friends are extremely supportive. My distant family ie grandma, aunt, cousins, etc dont rlly gender me correctly, nor do they call me by my real name( i.e. Apoorva ) so finally got the guts to just tell them to address me right, but rlly didnt help, they did it for one minute and then acted like they dont even know im trans.....kept forcing me to get a haircut and stuff...soo i quickly left that place and went back to my house.....but life is way better than before

Edited by Moderator: Kindly don't share medicine information.

Apoorvat

Apoorvat life is way better than before

oh ya and also....i realised that i could use all my sadness and dysphoria to express somehow and learned that im great at singing.....my voice is male androgynous but doesnt make me dysphoric.....and soo i started song writing and singing and practising and stuff

s18009

Apoorvat one of my psychiatrist turned out to actually be transphobic

Sorry that happened. If you could, please do share a report on them to @Transgenie (or even put it out here) so that others may be forewarned as well

Apoorvat

hero oh cool got it