Share some wonderful and unexpected experiences as CD/Trans

mayatrans

I see we are missing the fun part.Would like to know if you gals encountered some expected events which turned out to be an unforgettable pleasing experience.

eloise

mayatrans I don't want to remind you all the unfun parts of life, but I sadly have to... Unless you are counting cis-women who are CDs, CDs are not "gals" - it's mostly cis-men, questioning, or gender non-conforming people. The experiences of trans people and CDs are vastly different.

I just want to set that straight as so many people get it confused and CDs falsely claiming to be trans-women when they are "caught" and get into trouble is only hurting us real trans-women who have gender incongruence/dysphoria. Not long ago I read a story, locally there was an incident where a CD was harassing women, and when he got into trouble he lied was a trans-woman to the police to get out of it but later confirmed he was a cis-man crossdressing out of perversion. So, the distinction between us trans-women and cross-dressing cis-men is important. We are not the same. 🥹

That said, yes, there are fun moments. I usually get free treats and meals when I eat out. That's always amusing and endearing. I'm a trans-woman who is passing, not a CD.

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Yes ofcourse

mayatrans

Trans is an Umbrella term darling ! It includes a number of gender identities.

eloise

mayatrans Yes, but not CDs. CDs are only welcome here with an * in that they are gender non-conforming or questioning, perverted CDs who are cis-men are not "gals" and I am frankly tired of us catering to them.

mayatrans

eloise

I don't like to argue, but even going by what you posted, it clarifies unless you were speaking about cis-women,, questioning, or gender non-confirming people CDs are not "gals" or women in any sense of the word, it's because of these cis-male CDs we real trans-binary trans-women get a bad name. TERFs uses these cis-men falsely hiding behind us as an example to say how we real trans-women are not welcome in women's spaces. Is it so much to ask to show basic decency to our struggles by not bundling us together with these cis-men CDs? No real trans-women are comfortable with this, only cis-men CDs and those who don't understand the difference are continuing to propagate the narrative that we are the same.

Don't get me wrong, I become more accepting of CDs recently, but let's not bundle us together. CDs are cool as long as they are gender non-conforming (transfemme, transmasc, genuinely genderfluid... etc) or questioning people. It's the cis-hetero men that's "dressing up" for sexual gratification that's harming us. At the bare minimum, we should not bundle them together with the rest of us as we are only giving TERFs ammo to delegitimize us because we just have to take in all the strays. I'm okay with they/them, but we really need to draw the line. We are at a point where we are literally claiming perverse cis-men who like dressing up the same as us? That's utterly ridiculous. 🥺

mayatrans

Lets wind up on this debate.The purpose of this post was different.
Our reality is what we perceive and I respect your point of view.
You are transsexual if I am right.So good luck to you.
As per Nalsa judgement, everyone has right of self identification.You don't need any medical intervention to identify as Trans.
Who is perverted or not ,lets leave it .
Lets not judge.
LGBTQIA+ folks are at the bottom of social stratification anyway.If we start making distinctions within community.I see its pointless.
We are still fighting for bare minimum.
I will its call CDs are gals because every transsexual starts as a Crossdresser only.
Many of CDs don't transition out of their social,medical or other reasons.
This doesn't make them any less of woman.
I rest my opinion here.

eloise

Lets wind up on this debate.The purpose of this post was different.

This post was doomed to fail because you bundled CDs and trans people together. What kind of response did you get other than mine? "Yes ofcourse" and no further elaboration. I actually shared an amusing/endearing experience I had, but made it abundantly clear I do not appreciate you bundling CDs and trans people together.

**Questioning and gender non-conforming people are exceptions to CDs and not the majority of the CDs.**

I will its call CDs are gals because every transsexual starts as a Crossdresser only.

You are spouting personal opinions as fact. I am trying to educate whoever is reading as this line of misunderstanding is genuinely hurting transsexuals (trans-binary) within the trans community. It's only the CDs that benefit from our struggle and suffering (gender incongruence/dysphoria) by claiming CDs are trans too when they are not. They use it as a get-out-of-jail-free card for their misbehavior.

I pass 100% and yet even I have been kicked out of women's spaces if they learn I'm a trans-woman because people don't know the difference between trans (especially transsexuals) and CDs. I would gladly bear the burden of questioning and gender non-conforming people, even the backward hijra community, but it is utterly cruel I have to suffer for perv cis-men too. This forum is infested with these people, any idea how many of them harass us? Posts like yours that are heavily colored in personal opinion that CDs and trans same only encourage them and gives them an out for misbehaviour.

Anyway, I'm done too. I won't comment further on this. If at least one person understands the difference, that's less struggles we have to face.

@mayatrans You seem like a genuinely decent person, I get the vibe that you don't have malicious intent. This post is not here to berate you or educate you, but just venting frustration at how messed up this world is because of misinformation as I am someone who is abused because of CDs and backward communities like Hijra. If at least one person understands the difference, less abuse we have to face. Unlike CDs, it's not a choice for us. It's not dependent on clothes or makeup. Who we are is much deeper than that. From your post history, I see you are a CD, whether you're questioning or trans-femme or cis-man dressing up for euphoria (with or without sexual intent), you may have a hard time understanding our struggles as we experience it differently. You won't be able to see how harmful this is from your side. So, no hard feelings. I said my piece. Bye.

mayatrans

Thanks for your opinion,Good luck.