Masturbation

Mani_Neyveli

I had doubt in this masturbation topic. My doubt is I feeling like girl, I do cross dressing, I doubting my gender. But one doubt, transgender people do masturbation in childhood days with peanus. Iam doing masturbation by thinking dress like a girl. This society telling me you are boy because you are doing masturbation. I am confused now. Wheather the transgender people do masturbation or not in their childhood days or before transforming.

Kamlesh

Mani_Neyveli every things natural or common in all genders beyond transgender. don't be confused with un-logical questions.

Please do more research on your feeling and gender or sexuality. both are different.

Please also get counselling from Psychiatrist they will help you in your confusion.

Good Luck!

eloise

Mani_Neyveli You seem confused on multiple levels... I'm an asexual person with a very low sex drive, but I'll try to address as much as I can.

Trans-woman and cis-women self-pleasure, too, just as cis-men. It's not something reserved for boys or men. You seem to be confused that women don't experience sexual arousal or can self-pleasure. Bodies are different but not THAT different, that's why there are gender affirming treatments. It all comes down to people's sex drive, personal interests, how busy their lives are, if they have a partner, the privacy situation at home, etc.
If you are aroused by the prospect of dressing up as a woman, have no desire to live as a woman, have no gender dysphoria affecting your day-to-day life, are comfortable as your assigned gender at birth, nor do these fantasies give any sense of gender euphoria, but simply a sense of taboo and arousal... then it's a fetish/kink.
You are free to explore your kinks as it's not hurting anyone else, so there is no need to justify yourself with a non-existent identity crisis, if that is the case. However, if you feel the tiniest bit of dysphoria or euphoria or are able to see yourself living as a woman, then it may be more than a kink. That said, you can have this kink and still fall under the Transgender umbrella since the trans community is so diverse that we just about accept everyone as trans, even those who aren't, out of fear we'll be rebuked and labeled as gatekeepers by our own community if we so much as question the status quo of what makes a person trans. So, you can expect to be accepted with open arms because we ourselves no longer know what makes someone trans. 🤭
I have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria since childhood and have never been obsessed with dresses. So I'm still trying to figure out people's obsession with dresses. Does not being obsessed with it makes me less trans than those who do? No. It goes beyond dresses or makeup or having a voluptuous figure. A woman is a woman no matter what she wears or what shape her body is. Despite living as a woman full-time all my life pretty much, I wear mostly unisex clothing, yes I buy from women's sections, but I don't wear sarees or any other such traditional women's clothes. Same with my sister who is a cis-woman. So, these are not prerequisites for being a woman. These are things you can wear as a woman as it's socially accepted. It all comes down to preferences.

I have been pondering what makes someone trans for the longest time, and I have come to the confusion: just be yourself. If you need affirming treatments to be yourself, go for it. If wearing this or that clothes make you, you, go for it. If it's purely a kink, also go for it. You don't have to try to fit yourself in a box and collect labels to justify it. Regardless of what it is or your preconceived notion of gender identity, you'll benefit from talking to a psychiatrist.

Simmy_Thomas_24

Kamlesh what if someone loss intrest for dressing, living as woman , after having masturbation ?. Does she could be a transwoman too ?

Kamlesh

Simmy_Thomas_24 Dear masturbation not decided your gender or sexuality. Its natural process of body based on hormones role, everyone doing it including cis male, cis woman, or trans also.

Please think beyond it.

eloise

I love how I made a detailed post describing how self-pleasure doesn't revolve around assigned gender at birth, gender identity, or dresses, and it goes over their heads completely. I guess people only read what they want to hear. 🤭

mizu

eloise Oof, is this a personal attack 🤣

we just about accept everyone as trans, even those who aren't, out of fear we'll be rebuked and labeled as gatekeepers by our own community if we so much as question the status quo of what makes a person trans

More to the topic at hand, @eloise has already said everything I would like to say but the TL;DR is that being trans doesn't have much to do with the...topic at hand. There's those who do, and those who don't. What makes you trans is the desire to be socially identified as your desired gender in daily life.

eloise

mizu Oof, is this a personal attack 🤣

Nah, not specifically. But now that you mention it, you sort of did. 🤭 Anyway, I have been bonked quite a bit by Reddit and other such communities for trying to find clarity on what makes people trans for so long that I have to walk on eggshells for fear of hurting people's feelings. I'm not so much afraid of being outcasted but afraid of my ignorance or straightforwardness hurting others. I question it not out of malice but to find clarity so we don't have to fumble if someone asks us. Coming out would be much more stress-free if science could back us. Generally, parents who get mad or disown people do so because they feel it's a choice. Unfortunately, we can't do much about it. So many people commit suicide after or just from the fear of coming out to their parents. It breaks my heart to read such accounts..

It's an icky feeling I have to walk on eggshells among my own people, as it were, but that's the reality. We can't have an open talk without it becoming an argument because so many people rely on vagueness to justify their identity. I do slip up occasionally, but generally, I have concluded I have to think from others' perspectives before questioning what makes people trans. Not everyone is as fortunate as me to have a gender dysphoria diagnosis in childhood, having those traits manifest so strongly, understanding parents, having the freedom to express who I am, etc. Lots of people live as their assigned gender and may even have had a happy life, and only later in life do they start to detach from their assigned gender, and many live in denial even after that before seeking professional help. So, trying to define what's trans, to them, seems like trying to invalidate their identity, though that's not my intention. I actually prefer it if there wasn't so much stigma surrounding identity that we have to walk on eggshells and can't even discuss it among ourselves.

mizu

eloise I was kidding. lmao

Simmy_Thomas_24

Kamlesh

I meant about, changing mind after mastrubation, quickly undressing female after it, getting mindset of a male after doing mastrubation etc

eloise

Simmy_Thomas_24 I'm leaning towards it being a fetish/kink then.

(The video topic is NSFW, but there is no NSFW imagery. It's a respected educational psych YouTube channel)

Imagining or roleplaying as a character or the opposite sex is surprisingly very common, even people who are strongly cis-male or cis-female without any gender nonconformity share these fantasies.