I got attracted to trans

pbaj

I am from Ranchi, For some reason when I was 22yo I got attracted to trans. I used to watch a lot of porn back then. I am open minded person, so I thought why not give the Trans section a try and explore the category, initially I didn't like it, but being open minded I started to explore more and that was my first experience seeing trans the way they were, and my feelings grew.

I started to visit the section more often and gradually my urges started to change. At one point in time, my friends caught me red handed watching it, I was super embarrassed. I shrugged off by saying "I am just seeing what they do", they didn't press on me further, thankfully.

I also met this trans person online on blued dating app, we had wonderful conversation and experience together for few weeks, we fapped together sometimes. She said that it was perfectly ok to have fantasy and secret feelings.

I also read a Facebook post by a girl about similar situation, that "it is a mental disease or sickness due to watching p*rn from Trans category". At this point I don't know what do believe.

am I being too open minded ?

Dishsoap

Oh no! the woe. Snark aside. I mean, it is fine. Just control your porn consumption. Addiction to porn is a serious issue and can affect your life. As for your attraction to trans women(i assume) might be curiosity, or a fetish, or a part of your sexuality. If you want to date someone. then date someone. If you are just looking for hook ups then do that. Just be sure to make it clear beforehand with the person.

As for

pbaj I also read a Facebook post by a girl about similar situation, that "it is a mental disease or sickness due to watching p*rn from Trans category".

Sorry. My sense of humor is borked.

Bottom line, as long as the two (or more) people are willing and of consenting age, and the actions are not severely illegal. Everything is peachy.

pbaj

Dishsoap might be curiosity, or a fetish, or a part of your sexuality. If you want to date someone. then date someone

that's the issue, I don't know what it is. maybe it's all of them.
thanks for the advice though 👍️

delirium

Trans people are also just people in general.
And a trans woman is a woman, if you're straight, it doesn't change your sexuality or anything as such. So if you're coming from a place of yeah these are women too, and I'm attracted to them, it's pretty much cool.

If you are fetishizing trans women though, I'd say step back and question yourself. The porn you see doesn't reflect real life, it's fetishized content, and probably content aimed at cis people at that.
While dealing with trans people, you'd fare well to remember that. Most of us are pretty jaded from chasers.

Now I don't know what the kind of porn you watch is like, but if you aren't already I'd suggest watching stuff from trans creators/producers, the camera's gaze really does change the output a lot.